Long Distance Relationship: How I Deal With Perceptions
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I have been in long distance relationship for years and as many LDR couples out there, I had to face perceptions. Yup, perceptions. I am not talking about after married life. I am talking before being married to him. The main reason why I keep my, well, kept my relationship hush was because people's judgmental perception. As far as I remember, only few people actually not showing judgmental response when I told them about it, and that made me happy enough. Others, made me sad and frustrated.
And I am a very emotional person deep down. I didn't know how to express my feelings to people and often I keep the sadness or frustration to myself. I tend to act like I accepted everything well, though my heart bled. Well, that is in the past. Now, I am happily married, though in distance, and seek for happiness for today and future. Insyaallah.
So, how did I deal with perceptions?
Nope, I could not deal with the perceptions. Not even once. It hurts. When I FINALLY decided to share my personal status with people around me, I told myself to be numb if no one support me. And yes, negative thoughts were what I get as consequences. It is not easy. Their opinion matters. I seek for supports. I received doubt. I could not move on easily when people questioning my decisions, especially people who are close to me. BUT, I understand their intention and accepted the doubt the expressed as their way to show love and concern. They are many bad people out there and they just want me to be safe. Understood.
So I stopped sharing about my LDR. I stopped sharing about anything.
At adult age of mine, people doubt my decision. Welcome to my world.
I'm sure that I am not alone. Out there, there are many people who are in LDR and are facing the same situation as me. The only person who understands my frustration is my future (then) husband. He is always being understanding and positive. He told me to seek forgiveness from Allah and construct my prayers. He picked me up when I feel down. It's bizarre how a human from 9000km away can make me feel so comfortable. The struggle WAS very real.
I said as in the past, because it is.
He promised me that he will make me happy and he proved his words. Alhamdulillah.
Now, the frustrations are all gone. I hope that people around me, my family, my friends, to support and cherish my decision. Pray for our happiness as I pray for theirs. To support my decision as I support theirs.
For anyone out there, LDR is not all bad. Though one must be very cautious because scammers are everywhere. That is the major reason why I subscribed myself to PureMatrimony website. You can read about how I met my husband here.
That is for now.
Pray for happiness, ask for forgiveness.
May Allah guide and protect all of us.
Amin.
Love,
Akidah Mataj
I hope you still can enjoy reading my monotonous blog writing. 😉
I have been in long distance relationship for years and as many LDR couples out there, I had to face perceptions. Yup, perceptions. I am not talking about after married life. I am talking before being married to him. The main reason why I keep my, well, kept my relationship hush was because people's judgmental perception. As far as I remember, only few people actually not showing judgmental response when I told them about it, and that made me happy enough. Others, made me sad and frustrated.
And I am a very emotional person deep down. I didn't know how to express my feelings to people and often I keep the sadness or frustration to myself. I tend to act like I accepted everything well, though my heart bled. Well, that is in the past. Now, I am happily married, though in distance, and seek for happiness for today and future. Insyaallah.
So, how did I deal with perceptions?
Nope, I could not deal with the perceptions. Not even once. It hurts. When I FINALLY decided to share my personal status with people around me, I told myself to be numb if no one support me. And yes, negative thoughts were what I get as consequences. It is not easy. Their opinion matters. I seek for supports. I received doubt. I could not move on easily when people questioning my decisions, especially people who are close to me. BUT, I understand their intention and accepted the doubt the expressed as their way to show love and concern. They are many bad people out there and they just want me to be safe. Understood.
So I stopped sharing about my LDR. I stopped sharing about anything.
At adult age of mine, people doubt my decision. Welcome to my world.
I'm sure that I am not alone. Out there, there are many people who are in LDR and are facing the same situation as me. The only person who understands my frustration is my future (then) husband. He is always being understanding and positive. He told me to seek forgiveness from Allah and construct my prayers. He picked me up when I feel down. It's bizarre how a human from 9000km away can make me feel so comfortable. The struggle WAS very real.
I said as in the past, because it is.
He promised me that he will make me happy and he proved his words. Alhamdulillah.
Now, the frustrations are all gone. I hope that people around me, my family, my friends, to support and cherish my decision. Pray for our happiness as I pray for theirs. To support my decision as I support theirs.
For anyone out there, LDR is not all bad. Though one must be very cautious because scammers are everywhere. That is the major reason why I subscribed myself to PureMatrimony website. You can read about how I met my husband here.
That is for now.
Pray for happiness, ask for forgiveness.
May Allah guide and protect all of us.
Amin.
Love,
Akidah Mataj
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